Self Love is what you need!

I know you are probably wondering why I chose this topic, but I have too because it's a subject close to my heart. So let me begin...

​What is self love

I notice in a lot of situations self love is frowned upon, after all the concept of self love is also misunderstood. Self love does not mean you are selfish nor does it mean you disregard those around you. Self love is being able to accept yourself for you before you try love anyone else. Self love is being able to put yourself first, taking care of your well-being, treating yourself here and there, gifting yourself, self indulgence. It is a lot of self self self but do not confuse it with selfishness as it is important to understand yourself, take care of yourself before you can put the needs of others forefront.

Self love & Guilt

It is easy to feel guilty and feel you should not put yourself because there are people who need your attention. Other people will also envy how you take care of yourself and call you selfish, but always remember deep down there is no way you can save one without ensuring yourself first. Imagine a friend needing you to pick them up from work, what do you need to do? Of course you will need ensure you have enough fuel in your car before you can help. That is what it is, you can only give love when you have it in yourself.

Tips on self love

• Spend time alone doing what you love (meditation helps)
• Reward yourself every now and then 
• Read books to build on your confidence 
• Do activities that make you feel good (swimming, gym, travel, gardening, music etc) 
• Do not be afraid to say NO
• Surround yourself with people who want the best for you
• Take care of yourself (a little grooming) get that skin to glow 
• Change your hairstyle, get a pedicure, massage
• Drink plenty water
• Eat healthy 
• Have enough sleep

I know some of these points seem so obvious but it is also easy to forget doing such small things.